Your whole life is being shaped by what you say yes to and what you say no to. By what you allow, and don’t allow. This is why setting and maintaining boundaries impacts your quality of life, and all the relationships within it. Romantic, friendships, family or professional. Boundaries can also be financial, material, spiritual or time based. They are your non-negotiable. They will empower you, deepen your connection with others and improve your self-esteem.

Do you have regrets? I would argue a regret is something you didn't learn anything from. Otherwise if you regret the event, you regret how you grew from it. Someone recently asked me "what would you have done differently in your life?" So here’s a blog about my response…

I find myself becoming increasingly passionate about helping people discover their own self-worth. Seeing the results of this and the impact it has on client’s lives, is very rewarding. It’s a private, vulnerable journey, which is an honour to be a part of. Watching someone gradually realise, and accept, that they are not a ‘work in progress’. That their authentic self can be safe and loved, just as they are today.

When people hear I previously monitored whales and dolphins, they all have the same question. ‘Why did you leave?’ It actually took me years to be okay with the fact that I changed careers. I left home at age 16 and moved 300 miles away to study marine biology at college. Then undergrad, then postgrad. I felt I had put too much time, effort and money into it, to then change my mind. It felt like a failure. I was embarrassed. Upon reflection, there were multiple reasons for the change. It’s never too late to change careers. No matter how much time you’ve put into it in the past, if it’s not fulfilling for you, why put more time into it?

The big three-oh. The number at which society reminds us that time is ticking. We look around and compare ourselves to everyone else, to check if we are ‘on track’. I argue that this third decade of life brings with it a new level of self-awareness and understanding.